Online dating first message to a man
Once you tell him how great he is, he doesn’t know why he should write back. But the tone of that email should be flirty, funny, and challenging – the same as the email from a man that gets your attention.
POSTSCRIPT As to HOW to do something like that, here’s a link to my Finding the One Online program, which spends a full hour explaining how to email people online. Evan, Can you give an example of what would be an effective e-mail for a woman to write to a man?
Here is my question: Are men ok with women sending introductory emails to them? In some ways, I see a email hello similar to a come-hither look at a bar, etc.
but in other ways it seems very aggressive and therefore a turnoff to most men. Dear Jane, Your question brings up two of the most common mistakes that women make in online dating: 1) Waiting for Men to Write to You First 2) Telling Him What You Like About His Profile First things first: Men LOVE it when women write to them. If you have an attractive photo, interesting essay, and you’re in his target demographic, why WOULDN’T he be excited to hear from you?
Eg, say you both have a love for adventure travel — you see that he’s been trekking in Nepal, and has visited the Amazon…
Most hook up sites tell you when someone is live on their site.There is nothing inherent about initiating an email conversation that screams out “desperate”. Where most women screw up that first email contact is by taking one of two approaches: 1) telling him how great he is, or 2) explaining why you’re great and why he should write back to you. Is there something particularly energizing in the phrase, “I think we have a lot in common”?Is it really all that intriguing when he explains why he’s a good partner for you, even though you haven’t met?You just need to be funnily crazy for her to break a grin. I am a simple-guy who loves to exercise and eat healthy.Check out her profile and come up with a topic you can latch onto. If you are not a clown-type person, just Google ‘jokes’ or ‘smart lines for dates’ and see what you come up with. This type of information is most likely in your profile, so it does not need to be copied and pasted into a message, dumbo. It got a reply from over 90% of the women we sent them to.